As I edit my book, I am working on the section where the loss of a loved one comes knocking on the doors of some characters. The phrase “Death is in the air” feels especially poignant because, ironically, death has also touched my life recently; I am currently navigating the loss of my mother. I wrote this scene years ago, and it’s surreal to be dealing with such a personal loss while editing it.

My sisters and I believe that my mother’s life should be celebrated, as she lived a long life and is no longer suffering. In contrast, the characters in my book are shocked, numb, and sad, struggling to process their feelings. It’s a complex situation, and it feels as though life is imitating art—a true reflection of the saying.

During this time, I find myself receiving constant phone calls and messages from others checking up on me, which can be overwhelming because although I cannot forget that my mother is no longer here, I don’t want to think about it constantly. I have to keep myself busy, So I don’t break down. I focus on my book, which hopefully will be published this year.

When someone loses their family member or loved one, it can be difficult to experience to deal with, which is why you have to heal from the loss and find ways to celebrate their life. It’s not a sad moment. It’s a happy moment because they are with their lord and savior now. Some of the ways to celebrate your loved one who passed are:

  1. Your family and friends can share stories by creating a memory book with pictures, letters, and other keepsakes.
  2. Craft a Life Celebration: Rather than have an ordinary funeral, personalize a gathering reflective of your loved one’s character and interests. It can be inclusive of their favorite music, food, and activities that they loved. (My sisters and I did something similar to this for my mother.)
  3. Establish a memorial garden: Pick an area of your garden or a local park to plant flowers, trees, or shrubs in honor of your loved one. This tribute can foster tranquility and reflection.
  4. Support Their Favorite Cause: A great way to live on your loved one’s legacy is to volunteer or donate to a charity. This can be a great way to remember them because the cause they care about is likely very special to them.
  5. Share the Stories and Traditions: Cultivate their recollection through sharing stories and performing activities that were most valuable to them. These activities may include a family holiday, a favorite dish, or a cherished hobby.
  6. Create a Ritual: Remember your loved one through a personal ritual, like lighting a candle on special days, visiting a meaningful location, or writing letters to them in your journal.
  7. Host An Annual Gathering: Plan a reunion on the same date each year for family and friends to gather in remembrance and celebration of your loved one. This gathering can take many forms, from a hosted dinner to a picnic in the park or even a relaxed social event.

Focusing your attention on the good things they did for you and other people will aid you in the joy that you are seeking to celebrate their lives. It will maintain the impactful and inspiring way they have affected people’s lives.

Below is a snippet:  


“Death was in the air; it was like it was a runaway train out of control. It only catches up with you when you pull the brakes. Liv’ called everyone on her family’s love list, the ones you care about, to ensure they were all right. Because you know some family members need to be collected and given a do-over. Sorry, but I am trying to be truthful here. “


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