JUDGE VS. INSULT: ARE YOU THE TYPE THAT INSULTS PEOPLE OR JUDGES WITHOUT EVEN KNOWING YOU ARE?

Are you okay, is the only question that needs to be asked sometimes. Some people unintentionally insult others because they are curious about something about you. They ask you, “Do you miss paying bills?” no one really misses paying bills, but sometimes those bills represent what you do not have. So, when you answer the question, “Yes, I miss paying bills,” and they respond, “ No, you don’t.” You are judging them and judging their situation without even knowing their mindset. Now the person is in a funk because of how they perceive your question. Now, they think you think they are lazy or some other negative characteristic from that one question. You do not know or assume that person is not already thinking about what they do not have as a home of their own. Every time she speaks to you or visits you, she is faced with what she does not have.

People do not realize just because they found what worked for them that led to them getting their dream house that you found your process, yet that will lead you to yours. I must change my mindset to bring successful, positive vibes to me.

Do you even realize the insult that flew out your mouth? I am the type of person that continually thinks and analyzes a situation until I feel satisfied. This indirect insult can be dangerous because it is something that can fester if not dealt with immediately.

When you speak to a family member or friend about your relationship, why do you just break up with the person? They ask you, are you gay because your relationships seem never to work? Like – What? Or do you even like to have sex? Because your ex just called you, the one you just broke up with, asking you to be friends with benefits. What type of person do you think I am?

I know they do not mean it as an insult, but that is how it is being received. This made me realize my family and friends do not know me as well as I thought. Will they ever? No, because I am continually changing, and until I get to know and understand myself, they will not be able to.

You must understand that I also know that if I keep thinking about certain things, I will send myself into a state of depression that I do not need right now. I can’t think about the number of jobs I applied for that I did not get, the home I don’t have, the money I don’t have, the places I can’t go‒So, “Yes, I miss paying bills.” Still, I must focus on something else to keep my mind full of positivity. My solution was to figure out where I was wrong in my business pursuits. I did not and was not marketing myself consistently and correctly. So, I decided to go back to school to get my master’s degree in Marketing and focus on that. Obtaining my master’s degree gives me something to focus on. It updates my skills and takes away the emptiness I feel. Because it makes me think about my business more, it makes me look at what is working, what is not working for me, and what I am not doing.

I hope I have not insulted many people throughout my years. If I have, I am sorry. Let us blame it on the immaturity of my yesteryears.

The majority of the time, we are insulting ourselves. How often have you had a conversation with yourself, promising yourself something, but then something else comes along, and you break that promise? You get excited about the temporary happiness you receive that took you off your promise, thinking you will be fulfilled, but it was just a bag of chips, A quick snack that brings temporary satisfaction.

Why‒ why did you break that promise? What are you looking for? What did that temporary happiness fulfill? Because maybe that is what you need to be working on? When you don’t ask yourself why you won’t go through the process of self-reflection.

But then again, are people judging when they are making these statements. Let’s think about the neighborhood gossiper. “Girl, have you heard….?” The gossip girl or boy said. We have all been the person that talked about what A, B, and C did last night as if we lie in perfection. We don’t realize that everyone goes through a period of transformation that allows you to play in the dirt and be washed. It’s a part of the process of becoming who you are. It will enable you to exercise your free will to conduct yourself with characteristics that express love or hate.

We have all been to bible study as a child. Some go to church to understand and connect with God. Why is the bible used as a tool to teach discrimination? God is the almighty, the creator, the created who is “I am.” But in trying to understand and follow God’s word, we fall short.  Many People don’t teach all aspects, theories, or interpretations that can derive from the stories written in the bible. They teach what’s led to them. We all understand that GOD gave everyone free will; therefore, don’t you think when interpreting the word of GOD, you need to communicate all aspects of GOD’s Word and let the people choose for themselves what they want to believe.  None of us is perfect, but you will know which way to flow if you listen to your heart. 

THINK

We all know the story of Sodom and Gomorrah, but it is the story about the forbiddance of homosexuality or Rape.  You have one plot with subplots supporting the main plot in a story, but sometimes it is hard to determine it.  With other people’s agendas on the table, the primary topic that needs to get addressed sometimes gets overshadowed by the more profitable item and will serve one’s interest. If believing this makes you judge out of fear and respond with love, that thought should not be the path you take. It’s about free will and giving yourself another more positive way of thinking.

CONTROL

With history, we understand the length that people will go through to control people and maintain power. Look at all the stories about King Henry VIII, they call him the Mad King, but he used the church to get what he wanted. 

Think about it! God, people have been discriminated against for centuries, living in fear, afraid that they will go to hell if they don’t get straight. But they have also been taught that God is a loving GOD.  That is contradictory, don’t you think. Imagine the little boy or girl that says, “God loves everyone, except me, because of how I feel.” So, I ask you why, Judge?

JUDGING OTHERS

James 4:11-12

“Don’t speak evil against each other, dear brothers and sisters. If you criticize and judge each other, you are criticizing and judging God’s law. But your job is to obey the law, not to judge whether it applies to you. God alone, who gave the law, is the Judge. He alone has the power to save or to destroy. So, what right do you have to judge your neighbor?” 

This quote is something taught and understood, but we ignore when it when your selfish plan comes into play. We act like this passage doesn’t exist. We pick and choose when to believe and not believe in judging others. We spread the message, feeding our kids into fear, depression, and self-hate.

What are we doing?  Let’s start thinking about and changing our behaviors.