HAVE YOU EMBRACED THE ASSERTIVE YOU?

Have you waken up and taken Mary J. Blige’s Advice and said, “Good Morning, Gorgeous!” We forget that if you want to seek a positive, successful lifestyle, it starts with how you address and see yourself. Doreen Virtues states, “Once you have a major success with assertiveness, you learn that it’s a much healthier path than being a doormat to the insensitive folks. You gain respect for yourself, have more time for your priorities, and develop authentic and healthier relationships.”

IS IT SEX OR INTIMACY FOR YOU?

Do you really want to pretend it didn’t happen? I would rather be that old couple you see on your walk, holding hands, do you wish for that? I love the commercial with the young woman walking up to her prom date, dancing to some oldie but goodie song, and then it flashes to the next scene, and they are asking Alexa to play their song, and they are still dancing together in their house to that same old song.

ARE YOU TOO JUDGEMENTAL? WHY ARE YOU LOOKING FOR PERFECTION?

If you are perfect, raise your hands! No one should be raising their hand because flaws live in all of us. Although, we strive for it. We want what we want, and sometimes we want to be perfect, which makes us judgmental of ourselves and other people. We are a constantly evolving species, which means we are going to fuck up, go through struggles, and experience heartaches because it gets the wheels turning and our brains working.

WHAT IS YOUR BODY LANGUAGE SAYING ABOUT YOU?

Deborah Bull, a broadcaster, writer, and English dancer, states, “Body language is a very powerful tool. We had body language before we had speech, and apparently, 80% of what you understand in a conversation is read through the body, not the words,” Think about how a baby lets their parent know something is wrong. All the tantrums, crying, fake crying with no tears, and dancing when they are happy, to name a few.

ARE YOU LIVING IN A FALSE STATE OF SECURITY?

What is holding you here? Living in one place for so long sometimes provides you with convenience and comfortability, leading you to maintain a false state of security because where you are doesn’t provide you with what you need. You live in fear of the unknown, which will keep you in the same place where you do not want to be. So, I ask again, “What is holding you here?” Did you know that your comfortability can be disastrous to your goals?

JUDGE VS. INSULT: ARE YOU THE TYPE THAT INSULTS PEOPLE OR JUDGES WITHOUT EVEN KNOWING YOU ARE?

Are you okay, is the only question that needs to be asked sometimes. Some people unintentionally insult others because they are curious about something about you. They ask you, “Do you miss paying bills?” no one really misses paying bills, but sometimes those bills represent what you do not have. So, when you answer the question, “Yes, I miss paying bills,” and they respond, “ No, you don’t.” You are judging them and judging their situation without even knowing their mindset.

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