You don’t say whose there at home until you check that peephole to see whose behind the door. When Jehovah’s witness comes knocking, you stay quiet until they move to knock on your next-door neighbor’s door. If someone called you on the phone and you don’t know the number, you don’t answer the phone since we have caller ID and all. On the other end of the phone is probably a telemarketer trying to do his job like the Jehovah’s witnesses are trying to do theirs by educating you about God. We don’t know anything about their lives or the characteristics that make them who they are, and we know the half time, we don’t want to be bothered. Sometimes we don’t want to be bothered with ourselves, but we want to complain about where we are in our lives.
So, who’s behind the door to your house? If you are the house, who are you? What makes you valuable to others? What is your mindset? The things in your home are valuable, which is why you have homeowners insurance or renters insurance to protect what is valuable. Understand stand you are valuable. Don’t allow just anybody to step into your energy. Step inside your domain. Remember, some of us love to decorate our house to make it look pretty, just like some of us put on makeup because we want to enhance our natural beauty. But what is pretty on the outside, make not be pretty on the inside.
What is your perception of yourself? We tend to think others are a danger to us, and it’s true, but most of the time, we inflect our pain onto ourselves. We open the door and see who we want to be, not who we are, because we don’t like ourselves. We don’t love ourselves. We don’t accept our true nature because we believe our true nature is not good enough, but you are!
James Baldwin once said, “Love takes off the masks we fear we cannot live without and know we cannot live within.” We want to be perfect, but no one is perfect. We need to accept that we are changing, growing, and flawed because we are human. We are on a journey to learn who we are. Sometimes the person behind the door is full of happiness, sometimes the person behind the door is a sexy-son-of-a bitch, sometimes the person is just a bitch, and sometimes the person behind the door is that mature, confident individual. Still, you must open the door to find out who they are.
You must not be afraid to take chances, fall, and fail, but you need to forgive yourself and give yourself permission to flourish as well.
Have you opened the door to wander around, love, experience, and know your capabilities, strengths, weaknesses, dislikes, likes, values, and tolerance?
If you did, you should answer the question: whose behind the door to your house?
If you haven’t, stop walking around in other people’s perceptions of you.
Know that you are flawed but growing. Accept that you are flawed, and know you still have life in you. Realize you can grow? You wake up daily to create a new life for yourself. It is okay that you didn’t get the answer to the problem you might have, but keep on searching, living, and the answer will come to you.
Happy searching, happy living, and be happy for the growth!