Have you ever asked yourself, what do you need to do to create more possibilities for yourself? Have you ever reviewed your morning routine? I had to review my morning routine recently to figure out how I am projecting positivity throughout the day. Why was I checking social media first thing in the morning instead of saying my positive affirmations? Changing some habits that you might be doing that is not adding anything to your life is the first step. Creating possibilities is understanding that self-love is knowing that there is more road than roadblocks. You can be busy all day, but what actions are you taking that is leading you to achieve your goals? You can be busy all day doing your daily chores, but what counterproductive things you’ve done to accomplish some of your goals? We need to break down those roadblocks if they stand up in front of us—even the ones we built for ourselves.
The ones like the neglect of self. Taking care of yourself is the way to help and take care of your loved ones. They depend on you, so let me ask you, are you happy in your current state? What do you want? We tend to neglect ourselves for family members. They come first, but that is inappropriate. If you are unwell, what happens to them? We also sometimes leave other people to be more influential in our family lives when they look to us first. They absorb everything. We are our kid’s first teachers. So, let’s teach our kids to be led by example.
We sacrifice for our kids to be the perfect parent. Perfect mother, father, but there is no such thing as perfect human beings. We are all flawed. We should be asking ourselves what we want to teach our children today? Because it allows you to be more conscious of your choices and decisions you are making.
And like what Rosa Parks once said, “I have learned over the years that when one’s mind is made up, this diminishes fear; knowing what must be done does away with fear.” Do you know what must be done? Do you need to “write the vision and make it plain (Habakkuk 2:2-3)?”
Sometimes we get too comfortable with where we are until something shakes us up. We get stuck in our comfort zone, where we sometimes get lost. We know something is missing, but we don’t know what.
Knowing what you want is essential in all aspects of your life. We should be using our experiences, goals, and struggles as a roadmap to your discovery back to yourself. If someone asks you what type of person you are, what will your answer be? A very smart woman I know name Vanessa Thomas said, “I don’t like to waste time with people that are not on my level. If I can’t be myself around them, it’s not for me. It is not worth my time If you can’t stimulate me emotionally, physically, and mentally. I have a purpose in life, and I need someone that would have my back as I would have theirs.”
Not knowing your worth is a roadblock that you need to knockdown. It is essential for us to know our worth, even when it is not rewarded, seen, or spoken. You have to understand who you are, your potential, and what you can bring to the table. You have to set your life values for yourself, stick with them, and amend only when it will uplift your life.
When we look at celebrities or successful individuals, we always want to ask how they got there. It’s simple; they took a risk and kept going. They knew their worth. You know that you decided to watch tv, instead of studying your work. You know if you chose to stay home, instead go to that job fair. It is our choices we need to change.
They put themselves in a position to allow themselves and their kids to have a foot in the door if they choose to have kids. We need to stop asking questions about other people’s lives because all it does is allow us to deflect. Deflection is the stop sign that leads you to stand still at a green light.
We need to put our minds to work and start thinking about other ways to expand our life. You have wealth (money) that can drive you to make crazy decisions. But we need to remember that there are various ways you can start your business or gain success, which also gives you multiple ways to market and grow.
Don’t indulge in the down moments. Think Positive. Yesterday, I huffed and puffed like I was the big bad wolf because of where I am. The expectation of where I feel I should be in my life today. These are the moments you need to get to work and push through. Those down moments will be the dough that rises. Think happy Stop lingering and walking around in the down moments allowing it to fester. Thoughts. Those happy thoughts are seeds planted in the universe. It changes your actions; it makes you think about what you are doing to bring your future to your present. Be active when you feel like you are about to hit those “down moments,” be active. Take action, do something creative, do something fun, positive, or enjoyable. Bring happiness to you. Get rid of the expectations that nurture your mind monster. As you get down the nitty-gritty, the blame lies in your choices. Choose Joy.
It is your responsibility to smile and find your joy during those moments you want to scream. You have to seek and find your joy through the pain, so it will not fester. It allows you to take a step back to realize the situation might not be all that serious, and it might lend you a hand to sorry for your part in the problem.
Joy allows you to look at yourself, and it is the introduction to the love that sits dormant inside you, waiting to surface. It’s a double-sided mirror allowing you to change how you respond to specific situations, and anger only invites the response back to you.
Note: every possibility in wait relies on every decision you make and every thought you allow to occupy your mind.