Today! Today! Today! We want everything today. Has life taught us that we need everything now? Where is our patience? I am the type of person who thinks about the what if’s in life and stress myself out trying to prevent it. I worry too much. I know that I am a thinker and over-analyzer at times. It is difficult for my mind to relax. So when I need stuff done, I need it done now because anything can happen. Therefore, to help myself, I shift my attention to something else. Leonardo Da Vinci once said:
“Patience serves as a protection against wrongs as clothes do against cold. If you put on more clothes as the cold increases, it will have no power to hurt you. So in like manner, you must grow in patience when you meet with great wrongs, and they will be powerless to vex your mind.”
Therefore what are you doing to build patience or keep yourself patient? Take everything you go through; everyone you meet is here to teach you about yourself. Note that patience leads to preparation.
Be conscious of your and other people’s state of mind. It is not always good to lose control of your mouth; I know I could be like that sometimes. The stuff that comes out of my mouth when I am upset, irritated, or just feeling very vocal can be very upsetting. There are times when you want to get your point across. We must be diligent with ourselves and others because things can escalate quickly. Sometimes it is best just to let it go and return to it later.
Accept and recognize your present circumstances, but do not linger there if happiness escapes you. Remember that where you are right now is not just a pitstop to do something better. You have the choice to change your life and your situation by just applying yourself. If you don’t like your job, figure out the qualifications for the position. Recognize the skills you need if you don’t already have them, and then fill out the application for the job. If you don’t like your living situation, move! If you don’t like something about yourself, change the things you don’t like. Change partners. If you don’t want your partner, they aren’t adding value to your life.
Work on becoming a more tolerant person. Take your time and slow down; there is no rush. Don’t always be in a hurry to go nowhere, like those drivers speeding to a stop light. You never know who is standing on your blind side, be mindful. Let other people go ahead of you if they are in a rush. Mistakes happen when you are in a hurry, you don’t look at the whole picture because you are too busy looking for a shortcut.
Have Fun. Sometimes it is good to get your mind off your situation and act like a kid again. When you are feeling anxious or impatient, you can take your mind off things by just having some fun. When we were kids, many of us had no worries, and we played outside or with our friends until it was time to come home. Time flew by so fast that we didn’t want the night to end. If all else fails, get some hobbies to occupy your time.
If you are feeling shattered, really feel it and take heed of everything! When you are feeling broken. It is not always good to rush to immediately fix the situation without reflecting on it. You have to feel the pain, so you can figure out the why and what you need to do to improve things. We all contribute to our problems, whether we want to believe it. Don’t think about what he or she did. They may be wrong, but what did you do? Were you listening to that person’s concerns, or did you communicate with them? Did you take any action? Note: No action is still taking action. There are warning signs before things escalate. Reflect on it!
According to Oxford languages, patience is “the capacity to accept or tolerate delay, trouble, or suffering without getting angry or upset.” Everything takes time in life to develop, heal, and create, and it takes nine months for a baby to be born and about 30 to 35 minutes for a cake to bake. But what are you going to do in the meantime? Everything is baking. Joyce Meyer states, “Patience is not simply the ability to wait – it’s how we behave while we’re waiting.” Think about when you and your partner said you wanted to take a break. If you run out in the streets and start seeing someone, are you showing your partner that you love her? You suppose to be working on yourself. Come up with ideas to spark the romance back in your lives again.
Your actions while you are waiting is essential to you and your relationships. It’s time to reflect. Even if the breakup is permanent, it is still good to get your mind together, so you don’t end up making the same mistakes you did before. So be patient! That saying, “Good things come to those who wait,” is true. That breakup could lead you on the path to your true love or a rediscovery of yourself.
Being patient allows you to plant seeds for your next adventure. Being patient is just part of the process we call life, and it is a step we continuously make in between growth. Being patient is about loving yourself.